When we examine the structure of promises that constitute the Trainer/Trainee and Coach/Coachee relationships, we find several differences, which are extremely important.
As we consider the interactive components within the teacher (trainer)/student environment of the Training program we will notice some similarities along with significant differences when we turn our focus to the coach/coachee environment.
The TRAINER and The Agent/TRAINEE Relationship
The TRAINER generally makes the following types of promises to the prospective TRAINEE:
- If you chose to study with me, I will impart to you what I know, or what I can do, so that you will have the knowledge or skill available to you.
- I will design a learning process for you that will enable you to accomplish this goal, and I will assess your performance to let you know how well you are succeeding.
- You may do what you want with this learning. My job is to make sure that I make it available to you. I do not guarantee that you will obtain it, only that I will do a competent job of presenting it to you.
- My job is to be primarily committed to teaching; yours is to primarily commit to learning.
The TRAINEE usually makes the following types of promises to the prospective TRAINER:
- I will study with you, either by choice or under pressure from others, and I will acknowledge that you have certain knowledge and/or skill that I lack.
- I will follow whatever learning process you design for me, and I will give you permission to assess my outcomes.
- I will decide how to utilize whatever knowledge I gain from interacting with you, and I acknowledge that whatever I learn will be primarily a product of the effort, which I put forth.
- My job is to study and learn. Yours is to teach and assess my performance.
The Relationship between COACH CLIFF and YOU as The Agent or Manager
I will promise to teach you as well as coach you.
As your COACH I will make the following types of promises to YOU:
- Before I will agree to be your coach, I will need to know what your vision of accomplishment is, and how serious you are in your commitment to organize your life around that vision. If I can support your vision for yourself, and if I assess that you have the talent to accomplish it, I may agree to be your coach.
- I will design a coaching and learning process that will enable you to accomplish your stated goals and both you and I will always know how each of us is doing by the results of your performance.
- You and I want the same thing, which is the realization of the vision that you have for yourself. I am committed to doing whatever it takes to help you accomplish that goal. I GUARANTEE that you will produce your desired results IF you make the commitment to be coached by me.
- My job is to assist you to realize your vision for yourself. Your job is to go out and do it.
YOU will make the following promises to me as your COACH:
- I will share my vision of accomplishment with you and I promise that I am serious about organizing my life to accomplish that goal. I declare myself able to realize this vision and I request your help and support in doing so.
- I promise to trust the processes you design for me and to trust your observations as being more valid than my own. I give you permission to attack my habitual patterns of thinking and behaving and I trust that you will only do so if you sincerely believe that this will help me to achieve my stated goals.
- You and I are committed to the realization of my vision, regardless of what this might demand from both of us. I acknowledge our full partnership in this undertaking, while at the same time acknowledging that it will ultimately be up to me to make it happen.
- My job is to realize my vision for myself and to constantly remain open to your coaching. Your job is to make sure that I do this and to deal effectively with any obstacles that I might place in my way.